Sexual education of girls

In a family there was a girl … Together with the first pleasures in the house new cares come, there is variety of the problems, however hardly probable not most important of them is the problem of education of the child. How to grow up harmoniously developed child, how to bring up the girl, how to promote its correct physical and sexual development for they are inseparable from each other. When it is necessary to begin sexual education of the girl? These and other questions excite mothers not casually as already abundantly clear, that education of the child including sexual, it is necessary to be engaged from the moment of its birth, and about its health is necessary to take care to parents since that moment when they have planned to have posterity.

Health of the future child is influenced by many factors, including a current of pregnancy and sorts at mother, age of parents, bad habits (smoking, an alcoholism), professional harm, disease of mother during pregnancy, including infectious, ways of their treatment and many other things. Influence of these factors in the first 12—14 weeks of pregnancy when there is a bookmark and formation of all bodies and systems of the future child is especially dangerous. It is necessary to remember, what exactly many diseases of the child, including gynecologic which can prove if not in children's in пубертатном age during this period at an unsuccessful current of pregnancy are formed .

So, since what moment it is necessary to start to be engaged with children sexual education? Considering, that sexual education is a system of the medical and pedagogical measures directed on formation at rising generation of the reasonable relation to questions of a floor, many believe, that it is necessary to be engaged in sexual education when at children the puberty period begins. However it is impossible to consider this representation correct as sexual education should be closely connected with the general system of educational work which is necessary for spending since a birth of the child.

It is necessary to notice, that sexual education is spent taking into account an age, sex, характерологических features of children, but there are general principles and этапность in carrying out of sexual education about which it is necessary to know to parents. So, at the first stage of sexual education children should impart elementary hygienic skills literally from the cradle (for example, frequent change of diapers and linen, daily bathings, morning washings, cleanliness of hands etc.) . By 4—5 years it is necessary to learn to use the child a toilet paper (in a direction in front back) to accustom the child (by 5—6 years) to independent care of external genitals. To wash external genitals follows warm flowing water with soap in a direction in front back. After that it is necessary to drain a skin, slightly putting a soft pure diaper or a towel. Some parents are afraid, that daily performance of this procedure can promote attraction of attention of children to external genitals and awakening of sexual feeling. To be afraid of it it is not necessary, on the contrary, the urine rests, каловых weights, carrying close inconvenient clothes (shorts) cause irritation, an itch of external genitals, children start to comb them, that quite often promotes occurrence онанизма — intended artificial irritation of erogenous zones. This not realised bad habit at children if it in time not to eliminate (that it is necessary to do extremely tactfully and was able), can have heavy consequences.

At correct leaving, performance of all hygienic rules at children the habit to daily change of linen is formed. Also they well get used to daily washings, baths and with pleasure accept them. The hygienic skills imparted since the childhood, — the important element of sexual education. Besides, observance of elementary rules of personal hygiene will relieve the child of variety of inflammatory diseases of external and internal genitals.

It is necessary to notice, that at children at the age of 2—3 years the consciousness of an accessory to this or that floor is formed , there is an interest to questions of a floor which does not carry a sexual orientation. They set to parents set of questions, some of which can put adults in inconvenient position. Probably, there is no child who would not set to parents following questions: «Whence I undertook?» Or «it is the truth, what me have found in cabbage … the stork has brought?» Etc. It is necessary to answer these questions to children correctly, in the accessible form, for example. «You were born in maternity hospital» or «You grew at me in a tummy, and then when has grown up also to you became close, you left it». Sometimes, having seen the pregnant woman, children ask: «Why at the aunt such pot-belly?» It is not necessary to think out any reasons, it is necessary to answer simply, that «the baby grows in a stomach at the aunt». As a rule, children are content with these answers as at this age they yet do not fix attention to details, and are quickly switched to another. If on a question interesting the child on its occurrence parents think out any fables sooner or later children learn it from other, more informed contemporaries and then they will have a feeling of mistrust to parents. Moreover, it is not known, and in what form they will receive what information from "knowing" children.

At children at the age of 3—6 years of emotion become more differentiated, and by the end of the preschool period they already well understand such categories of an emotional life, as love, sympathy, friendship, envy, jealousy and others. Not without reason L.N.Tolstoy wrote, that for children of preschool age cheerfulness, boundless requirement for love and inquisitiveness are characteristic. At this age the child continues to be formed as the person and if you, expensive parents, wish to grow up harmoniously developed child is necessary for avoiding everything that can deform its person. It is necessary to show calmness, patience, respect for the children's person, sincere, instead of ostentatious participation in a life of the child. In a word, the positive emotional climate in a family is necessary. It also is the important element in sexual education of the child as only in such family full contact between parents and children, and the child can be come into, not being afraid to cause irritation or a sneer from adults, will let all of them into the secrets not only in children's, but also in more advanced age for possibility to discuss the problems in a family circle begins a kind habit.

At younger school age it is necessary to watch observance of hygienic actions, to promote an establishment of correct mutual relations between boys and girls, to bring up at them feelings of friendship, respect, readiness to help each other. It is necessary to support in them desire to help with homework, to impart it feeling of responsibility in performance of commissions — both public, and house. At this age children should know well, that with all their interesting questions including floor questions, they can and should address to parents whom it is correct, taking into account age and the general development of the child, will answer them. It is necessary to remember, that children of preschool and younger school age can have feelings of liking and even love. It is not necessary to be frightened displays of these feelings as at children of this age interest to an opposite sex has no sexual character.

Girls at the age of 10—12 years are necessary for acquainting with features of development of a female organism, they should have short idea about a structure and function of female genitals and about occurrence of the first менструации. At correct physical and sexual development occurrence of the first менструации is preceded by development of secondary sexual signs — mammary glands, оволосение on лобке and in axillary hollows. On the average in 1,5—2 years from the beginning of development of secondary sexual signs the first comes менструация. It is quite enough this period of time to prepare the girl for occurrence менструации, to explain its physiological role, to train in a hygienic mode during time менструации. Conversations on this theme mother, school doctors or teachers necessarily should see off . They are necessary for spending in confidential and in the form accessible to understanding, by all means answering all questions which can arise in the course of conversation. It is necessary to learn to conduct girls so-called менструальный a calendar on which days менструации are monthly fixed. It is necessary for mums to watch that girls with special carefulness observed hygienic actions (обмывание external genitals of 2-3 and more times in day, watched cleanliness of a body and clothes). Girls should зна1Ь, that менструальная blood is the favorable environment for reproduction of microbes which at non-observance of rules of personal hygiene can get into internal genitals and promote development of inflammatory processes. Besides, in the days previous менструации, and during it activity grease and потовых glands amplifies. For this reason these days it is necessary to watch with special attention cleanliness of a body and frequent change of linen. All these skills are of great importance in sexual education of the girl as they are a basis of hygiene of a sexual life. In cases of infringements менструального a cycle (excessively plentiful, long, irregular менструации) it is necessary to address to the expert — to the gynecologist of children's and teenage age.

At the age of 12—14 years when in an organism of girls there is a rough physiological reorganisation, at teenagers the sexual inclination clears up. Children not informed in time in the floor questions, not having contact to parents, address on their interesting questions to casual acquaintances, quite often receiving the perverted representations, children have an aspiration to independence, self-affirmation in any ways. This age is characterised by a discord between rough processes of puberty, a sexual inclination and level of mental development. Practical supervision show, that many conflicts and the errors peculiar to teenagers, it is possible to avoid, if at the girl good confidential relations with parents if she is correctly informed in questions of mutual relation of floors in moral, mediko-social aspects, and also in questions of hygiene and physiology of a sexual life were already generated . Hushing up of these questions does doubtless harm.

In puberty girls have a desire to like associates, they quickly fall in love, and at this age love already mows a sexual orientation. It frightens parents, every possible interdictions begin and. As consequence of it, conflicts, irritability, misunderstanding of mentality of the teenager, the scornful relation to the arisen feelings of the child - all it leads to leaving of the teenager if not in direct, figuratively from the parental house. Thereby they as though release themselves from authority of parents, from their guardianship. However the lack, and more often absence of experience, on the one hand, and the raised self-respect, possibilities and abilities, with another, give rise to uncertainty and instability in behaviour. From here, if they do not meet understanding of parents, leaving in a circle of friends-adherents (at the best) or in a society of imaginary friends in which they comprehend knowledge of an adult life. To what friends — imaginary or present - your children will get, depends on you, expensive parents. And conflicts which quite often arise between parents and children, it is possible to avoid, if adults show delicacy and a step, respect for the arisen feelings of the teenager, for its person, will know an environment of the girl.

It is necessary to tell, that after the uneasy teenage period even more disturbing follows — maidenly or youthful (15—18 years) which is characterised by-rough changes in an organism, coming to the end with a sexual maturity. The aspiration be the adult can to be shown as in positive sense (independence, feeling of own importance), and in negative (smoking, a narcotism, binge, the premature beginning of a sexual life with different partners, асоциальные acts). To this age of the girl should not only the nobility that the beginning of a sexual life can lead to undesirable pregnancy, but also to be familiar with contraception methods (protection from pregnancy). Parents should explain in due time to the daughter, that pregnancy approach is inadmissible because the organism yet has not ripened for sort reproduction, that interruption of the first pregnancy can lead to development of gynecologic diseases, that this interrupted first pregnancy can appear for it last. In turn, the girl should know absolutely precisely, that if at it there has come pregnancy it first of all should and can address to parents, instead of to someone from the environment for the decision of a question on interruption or its preservation. It is final, difficult to imagine parents who would be enraptured with this message of the daughter, but nevertheless it is necessary to find the necessary words to support it a difficult minute for more nobody can help your girl with the created situation. Good medicine for derivation of the girl from the undesirable company are confidential relations in a family, joint carrying out of leisure (theatre, books, cinema, campaigns, playing sports etc.).

In the near future we will have family doctors and then a part of the problems connected with sexual education of the child, at will of parents they as the people having vocational training can incur. But while they are not present, in sexual education of children parents, teachers, doctors should be engaged. The keystone to success in carrying out of sexual education — in the regular, consecutive, delicate decision of a problem which is closely connected with the general system of moral education. Remember V.G.Belinsky's words that moral cleanliness does not consist at all in ignorance, but means virtue preservation at sufficient awareness.

The author: To. R.Avetisova, the candidate of medical sciences